It starts straight as they leave the womb. I always associated mum guilt with the idea of having to go back to work or leave your baby when it's not your choice. Mum guilt is the overwhelming feeling of thinking you're not good enough. Being a new mum is hard, theres no rule book, you want to do whatever is best for your baby, feeding them enough, making
sure they're warm enough - sometimes you just dont know. Those 5am unsettled sleeps and you cant do anything to soothe them and your, well, mum. Even something as silly as piercing their ears and hearing them whale, its pain you're inflicting on them. I have cried more times in my 10 days being a new mum than I did my whole pregnancy. Although I understand there is an underlying pressure on new mums to be on it with everything as if it was natural and I know the advice I would give to any other new mum, dont put too much pressure, you're doing the best you can, your baby has the best mother it could, but taking in the advice myself - not so easy. I also think what doesnt help is a million different opinions, ways on doing things, although I appreciate the advice, it doesnt do much for your self confidence as a mother and with the amount of information available online, second guessing yourself is an easy thing to do. It will take time to adjust, know my baby and her routine and I imagine the tears wont stop but for now I'll take each day at a time. Until next time, All our love, Baby C and Me X
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